Welcome to the new January - February. As today is the first Sunday in February I thought it would be a great time to share this exercise to help you become 'So Happy.' I thought it would be nice to have a whole part of the website dedicated to having a 'So Lovely, So Simple, So Happy' mind. One thing I have learned over the last few years is - in order to be happy you have to understand yourself and what makes you happy.
So I thought about what I could add to this topic and what new way I can suggest in order to achieve some self analysing and therefore more happy decisions. The answer was staring me in the face while going through my teaching things. You might not know this but us teachers (primary anyway) do lots of things the same every year. One thing most of us do when we have some time with our new class, is lots of getting to know you exercises. One common one is to fill in a fun shaped piece of paper (my personal choice was always bunting!) titled: ‘All About Me’. In this they can tell their new teacher their favourite and least favourite subjects, what they like or don’t like about school, who they prefer to play with or sit next to and so on.
This is quite a task, for anyone. But every year I am surprised by how much children are able to self analyse and answer each question without much deliberation and a definite answer. Am I the only one to feel like they have lost this ability somewhat? Sometimes I feel the person who knows me least, is myself.
So I sat at my computer and devised an adult version and because we are adults and not primary children I decided to call it a guide to me (so adult). The premise, however, is much the same. You have to work methodically through it in order, I think, to get the most from the exercise. Work along each row in turn.
The aim is to get to the end of the exercise with three or more achievable goals to start putting into place this February. These goals are derived from looking into yourself and at yourself from other perspectives in order to work out what is missing or what could change to make you happier. For that is the aim - to be happier but through simple and achievable steps. (Totally trying to be a goal-setting person!)
So you start off with row 1 - it is important to think about the attributes you feel you have, what other people see and what you maybe want them to see more of. Personally for me I am thinking I might want people to think I am courageous. How could I do this? Share So Lovely, So Simple with people, knowing it may come to nothing, scary - sharing courageous.
Now moving onto row 2 - probably the hardest part for lots of people what you are good at, you must write at least three things! Then looking into things you are not good at, more importantly though the things you are not good at and are making you unhappy. The big one that came out for me is looking at my fitness. I want to feel confident in my body again, where is a good place to start? I am just going to start by walking up and down the steps at the beach.
Finally onto row 3 - Here is where we hone in on what will make you So Happy. List everything you can think of that makes you happy. If something brings you joy write it down. Then we are going to break this down and filter it into what makes you happy and healthy. A few of mine from the previous list did not make it to the next round (read chinese, crisps and obsessing over series on netflix I don’t know if you will find this too but the things that made me both happy and healthy were some of the things I did least on the previous list. To make this manageable pick maybe one or two to focus on. For me I don’t listen to enough music I ‘don’t have time’ so I have decided to listen to music while doing another chore - cooking. My second goal is to publicly share my reads on a public forum (I’ve chosen instagram but whatever works best) this means I can feel proud of my achievements and share some good recommendations with friends - total win win.
Below is a link to download the document - print it off and have a cuppa while filling it in. I also recommend sharing your finished sheet with someone (me if you want!) so you can share your goals which in turn makes them much more likely to be achieved.
I really hope you enjoy this exercise. I am going to be revisiting this soon so we can all keep a track of our goals and our happiness! Go February!