To the outside world my little universe is normal - mother, wife, teacher- happy but unfortunately that’s not the whole story. To cut a very long story short, six years ago my husband (then boyfriend of a year) had a massive bleed on the brain. It devastated our lives and still the effects ripple through our every day and will for the rest of our lives. He has been left with weakness down his left hand side, meaning fine motor skills are affected and simple everyday physical tasks are ten times harder for him. He can actually put his socks on using one hand - it’s pretty impressive!
Hello and welcome back to the Simple Series!
I took a little Easter break but I’m back sharing the simple ways to make your life lovely! Today I wanted to talk about the ways in which I *think we influenced our son to love reading. Both my husband and I are big readers - I read books and my husband reads articles and reports because he is a freelance sports journalist. It was a kind of conscious unconscious decision to make books a priority. We both just knew we wanted Reggie to have a love of reading. And he does! Boy does that kiddo love reading - so much so he just brings books to us one after another just saying ‘peas!’
I have five tips I believe have made a big impact on Reggie’s love of books and the best thing about them is they are so simple!
This week I wanted to share my simple ways to stop worrying about weight - I suppose in essence for me that was to lose weight. But now I have shifted a few pounds (stones - I actually don’t know because I never weighed myself!) I don’t worry about weight anymore. I feel happy, I’ve definitely still got a way to go but from now everything is a bonus. I actually think for me my next step is exercise - but that’s a whole other story!
I am all about keeping things simple and lovely and that definitely extends to weight loss. If it’s complicated, time consuming and tasteless it’s not for me! I hope my top ten tips will help inspire you to start your own journey to not worry about your weight!
I have done some research on personal policies since deciding to share their power in my life. It turns out I think I do it slightly differently than most people - but that’s okay - it definitely is very similar! I think I first heard about them on an Elsie gets crafty podcast episode but I believe Sarah Knight talks about them in her book. For Sarah, it sounds very much linked to mental health and guarding yourself by making personal policies on what you are or are not comfortable doing.
I am really interested in using them with that intention - although I probably already do in my own kind of way.
For me, fundamentally personal policies act as a decision-making tool and provide me with clear boundaries in which I work best. I think the best way to describe how I use them is to give an example, here is my personal policy for buying new clothes:
I wholeheartedly believe in the power of routine. My husband had a brain injury six years ago and suffers with severe memory loss so for us routine has been a life saver - literally. I am also a creature of habit and cope horrendously with change.
There are three main reasons why I love routine
I will not let you steal my sleep
Give so much freely for you to keep
I will not let you steal my hope
As you sit and stare while I can’t cope
I will not let you steal my sparkle
Bitch and gossip as if I’m a Markle
I will not let you steal my voice
Make me feel like I don’t have a choice
I will not let you steal my smile
Make each interaction into a trial
I will not let you steal my weekend
Force me to fake smile, act, pretend
You see if I let you steal all these
And I keep pretending, just to please
You’ll have stolen all of me thats good
And you should know better you really should
But one thing I really wish you knew
Im ok hun, because it’s not me it’s you
I will climb the highest mountain
Dive down to the deepest seas
Explore all corners of the world
Hold the tissue while you sneeze
I will fight off fearsome dragons
Join with you against each foe
Fly through the sky chasing fairies
Pull the splinter from your toe
I will catch a shooting star
Steer our rocket out to space
Search the caves for pixies
Wipe every tear from your face
I will chase lions in the savannah
Track the footsteps of their prey
Cook our dinner over an open fire
Listen to all that you say
I cannot promise an easy life
If I did, that would be untrue
I can however make this promise
That we will always and forever love you
Recently I have come to the realisation that something needs to change. I need to change. I have spent the last five years functioning in survival mode - literally getting from one day to the next. I thought I was living but I wasn't. Having Reggie triggered me to breakdown and have to start rebuilding my mental health from scratch.
Being a new mum is the best job in the world. I do honestly feel like I have been waiting to become a mum for a long time. I did quite a lot of 'research' before having my little boy and listened to a lot of advice. Some of it I took on and is now a part of my parenting, some I politely listened to but decided it wasn't for me. So with that in mind here are my top tips as a new momma feel free to ignore or take on!
Heading out and about with a baby can be daunting and cause a lot of anxiety. But for me, not going out isn’t the option, Reggie and I do not cope well being inside all day, it makes us both unbearable! I think the best thing to always do is arm yourself, so being out and about with a baby is as simple and as lovely as possible.